We Grieve
Tis only we who grieve – They
do not leave
They are not gone – They look
upon us still
They walk among the valleys now
They stride upon the hill -Their smile is in the summer sky
Their grace is in the breeze
Their memories whisper in the grass
Their calm is in the trees
Their light is in the winter
snow -Their tears are in the rain
Their merriment runs in the
brook
Their laughter in the lane
Their gentleness is in the
flowers
They sigh in autumn leaves
They do not leave – They are not gone
Tis only we who grieve
If only we could see the splendour of the land
To which our loved ones are called from you and me
We’d understand
If only we could hear the
welcome they receive
From old familiar voices all
so dear
We would not grieve
If only we could know the reason why they went
We’d smile and wipe away the tears that flow
And wait content.
Anon
The journey of healing can be a difficult and lonely road to travel. Below are some practical pathways to assist you as you transition through grief.
Accept that each person will grieve in their own way, including you.
Hold close to your Spiritual Belief System.
Speak out your grief, share your feelings of loss, pain and hurt. Share the beautiful memories, the good times and the hard times. Find a trusted friend who has journeyed before you to express your feelings to.
Give yourself permission to mourn.
During significant dates like anniversaries, birthdays and special occasions give yourself space to reflect, remember, celebrate and mourn. If possible, set aside time on these significant days to allow yourself a personal moment of reflection. There may be a special place of meaning, a treasured song to play and other close family members to be with at these times. Allow yourself to journey through the remembering.
Search around for a support network. Surround yourself with those that can provide compassion and with those who have walked the path of grief before you.
Be kind to yourself. Grief can be exhausting. Be patient and kind to your physical, emotional and spiritual well being. Slow your pace, ensure you are getting some form of exercise, eat healthy foods and try to get sufficient rest.
Don’t rush decisions. Give yourself time when deciding on what to do with those treasured possessions and those belongings. Don’t be pushed into these decisions. You will know when the right time is.
Hold close the legacy of your spouse.
